Me, my Dad and a garden!

When I was younger me and my sister lived with our Dad, back then this wasn’t a common arrangement-but it worked for us. He was an amazing Dad, he worked 7 days a week, whilst our Nan looked after us, just to keep a roof over our heads.

Me and my Dad were really close, I could tell him anything. I looked up to him like any little girl would, he really was my superhero. As I grew up things stayed the same, I loved my Dad more than anything in the world. We would talk about boys, school and general teenage life but this all changed when I turned 18…I fell pregnant.

I don’t think I actually told him, even though I confined in him about everything, my Mum did.  Things were tense for the first 3 months of my pregnancy but I thought he was getting used to the idea. This was until we had an awful row and he made me move out. I remember that day so vividly, it is probably one of the worst days I have ever had. Luckily my partner’s parents let me move in with them. (Just writing this brings back all those awful memories and tears)

We stopped talking for 7 months, he tried to visit the hospital after I had Gracie but I told him he wasn’t welcome. I don’t know what hurt the most not talking for 7 months or telling my Dad I didn’t want to see him.

When Gracie was 2 weeks old we finally spoke, it was tense but at least we could be civil.

Fast forward to now, 7 years and 2 more children things have only just started to improve. Our relationship is a funny thing, he’s quite quiet with me but I feel how I used to-loved.

This has only began to happen within the last month, he has been helping me with our front and back garden. He loves gardening so I think that passion helped break down the barriers we both had put up.

I think we are on the straight and narrow, fingers crossed we hit any more bumps in the road.

Have you ever experienced a falling out with a family member?

What did you do to amend it?

 

Lots of love,

Charlotte

xx

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10 thoughts on “Me, my Dad and a garden!

  1. PaperPuff says:

    Whatever has happened in the past, it is good you can start to make friends again. Everybody makes mistakes. Fixing them is harder! I hope everything works out well for all of you.

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  2. Jakijellz says:

    Ah this is a sad story but with a happy ending. I’m pleased things are getting better with your Dad again. Parents are so precious. Thankfully I have never had a serious fall out with mine. There are plenty of my family that I don’t speak to and I’m happy to keep it that way, but they are not immediate family and so it really doesn’t bother me, I am better off without them in my life. I really hope that things stay well for you and your Dad! Enjoy the garden! 🙂 #twinklytuesday

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  3. thismumslife says:

    Oh my goodness, what a heartbreaking story. To have been that close, and idolise your dad so much, then it all to break down, is just so sad. He must’ve really been in shock by you getting pregnant-I wonder whether it’s much harder for dads to accept that their daughters are pregnant, than mums. I’m so glad that you’re working to improve your relationship-I can imagine that your dad feels nothing but guilt over what happened, and feels bad for what he’s missed out on. Good luck working through it xx
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  4. mummascribbles says:

    So glad that everything is working out for you and that you are building that relationship back up. Still loads of wonderful time to make memories for the kids. And the garden looks fab 🙂 Thanks for linking up with #TwinklyTuesday

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  5. Moonlight and Starshine says:

    Gosh, you brought back so many painful memories of mine. Slightly different story but we didn’t speak with my parents for 2years over my choice of partner, whom in the end I married and have 2 wonderful girls with 😍. My mum has regretted the way she has treated me back then as I’m sure your dad has too. Parents want the best for their children and can act tough at times. They feel they have failed and lash out ( which surely isn’t the right solution). Let bygones be bygones and accept his return as an apology because love is hard to express in words for some people. I wish you the best of luck, Maria xx

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